Is "I can't" really that bad?
Hurry up! Give it to me!"
These are words that we often say in our daily lives. Especially in the busy mornings and after coming home, when children have trouble putting on their shoes or take a long time to do their homework, it is tempting to lend a hand.
But the truth is that it is during these times of "not being able to do it" that children develop the ability to believe in themselves, in other words, their sense of self-esteem.
There is a fine line between "helping" and "taking away.
When a child is struggling, we think we are "helping" and act accordingly. But at times, we may be depriving them of the opportunity to challenge themselves.
Once upon a time, when I was a salaried employee, I was the leader of a team and was teaching a junior employee how to do his job.
The task was to manipulate the contract information of a certain client on a computer and send it to a screening organization. The staff member asked me to teach him. So I operated the computer and showed him how to do it.
Later, I was told by my supervisor that the new staff member who had just joined the company was disappointed that I had taken the liberty of operating the computer when he had wanted to do it himself. I was in my 20s at the time and thought I had "taught" him without thinking about it.
Every child (and adult) has a desire to be able to do something. If adults are too quick to help, the buds will be nipped before they have a chance to fully develop.
Craftsman After School's Approach｜Cultivating the Ability to "Watch Over" Children
At Craftsman After School, we do not deny "I can't do it.
Rather, we view that time as a valuable challenge.
For example, if a child makes a mistake when using the 3D printer, we do not immediately point it out. We watch over the child until he or she realizes that something is wrong. I watch over the child until he or she realizes that something is wrong.
Children will come to feel that "failure = discovery" rather than "failure = no." This will lead to future problem-solving skills.
This is an important perspective that will lead to problem-solving skills in the future.
Conclusion｜There is growth that begins with "I can't do it.
There may be times when you are worried that your child may be slower than other children. However, there is no need to compare your child with someone else's. What is important is that your child is able to grow at his/her own pace.
What is important is for your child to accumulate "I did it! at his/her pace.
The courage to believe and wait for the "I can't do it" time will be the greatest gift for the child.
At Craftsman After School, we will work with you to create such a child-rearing environment.
【無料体験実施中！】
