Hurry up!" are real problems that many parents face.
Hurry up and change your clothes, hurry up and eat, hurry up and do your homework. I don't have time!"
These are words that we parents often use in our daily lives.
But every time we use them, we feel a tingle somewhere deep in our chest.
Children are creatures that cannot be rushed.
We know that in our heads.
But the reality is that we are always pressed for time, busy getting ready in the morning, busy preparing dinner, and so on.
The ideal is to raise a child without rushing. But it can only be achieved if there is enough time to spare.
We often hear parents at Craftsman Afterschool say, "I want to leave my child in charge, but I have to work:
- I want to leave things to my child, but I feel rushed because I have work to do.
- I want my child to do things on his own, but when I watch him, I end up giving him a hand.
- I want to motivate my child, but I end up interrupting him or her.
Many parents face these dilemmas. As the author of this article, I am also a parent of a child. I understand it well.
What is "leave-it-to-your-children" parenting? The Gap in Modern Parenting
In child-rearing books and articles on the Internet, we often see phrases such as "watch over," "leave it to the child," and "value the child's independence.
In particular, today's education focuses on "non-cognitive ability," which is the ability to think for oneself.
However, the truth is that there is a big gap between this and reality.
- I get frustrated when my children take it easy.
- If I don't talk to them, it takes more time.
- If I let my children do as they please, they sometimes don't do things.
Does "letting go" mean just leaving them alone?
How much patience do I have to put up with when I watch over them?
In fact, it is this "distance" that is the most difficult point.
What happened in Kitayamada Schoolchildren Creating an environment that supports "I want to do it!
At Craftsman Afterschool, we place importance on "letting the children decide" in our daily activities.
One example is the 3D printer experience that is part of our STEAM education program.
One day, R-kun, a 3rd grader, was trying to make a small container with his name on it.
However, he struggled with computer operations and unfamiliar CAD, and called the staff several times.
It is easy for adults to take a hand here.
But the staff would ask, "How far did you get?" But the staff only asked, " How far did you get?
A few minutes later, R-kun reopened the menu, re-designed the menu by himself, and finally made it to the printout on his own.
I did it! and his face lit up.
It is easy for us to lend a hand. But that moment may deprive the child of the experience of success.
That is why I feel that we need to have the courage to leave things to others.
The first step as a parent
At Craftsman Afterschool, we tell parents
✅ "Ask questions" rather than "rush.
✅ "Watch over" rather than "Make them do it
✅Create an environment where it is okay to make mistakes.
For example...
- Why don't you do it? →What do you want to start with?
- Do it quickly" - "How many more minutes do you think you can do it?
- That's not right." "How did you think of that?"
This kind of approach and ingenuity will nurture the child's "ability to do things on their own.
Summary｜Leaving child-rearing to the parent begins with the courage of the parent.
"I want to trust my child, but I tend to give him or her a hand.
This is not a bad thing. Rather, it is a statement that comes out of a parent's concern for their child.
However, why don't you make a little time to "trust and watch over" your child?
At Craftsman After School, we do our best to support children's "I want to try by myself! We do our best to support children's "I want to do it by myself!
And that power will surely come in handy at home as well.
We can raise children with Craftsman in a way that allows them to "leave the child-rearing to others".
【無料体験実施中！】
